Work

All I have to do is outwork all of my self doubt🌞😊🐞

I know I do not have the answers for other people

When I work with others my aim is never to fix them.

My aim is to meditate and listen with them long enough as to they make their own decisions.

Stay solution oriented as an invitation

Perspective

I cannot help but to think of the hurricane and everyone coming together to help one another.

I had the honor of helping with hurricane Katrina when I was in the service.

In my heart it was the very best thing I did while I was a Navy Seabee.

We were helping the home front and I was extremely inspired by the local people spirits.

I found it unreal that these people had lost everything and were still wanted to feed us and make us feel appreciated. Absolutely mind blowing.

Before we complain today if you choose to I hope we can zoom out and realize how good we really have it.

All my love and compassion

Crofton

Overwhelmed with gratitude

I cannot thank my friends enough!!!!!

You all have come out in bunches in response to my father’s passing.

Friendship is a sheltering tree and it is something near and dear to my heart.

I know I would not be where I am without friendship and all of you!!!!!!

Sincerely thank you all so freaking much.

Sending you all hugs love and compassion as I know you all are going through your own joys and sorrows.

One love

Mumford and Sons

Find strength in pain

PRAYER

If you had one prayer… thank you would be enough

Gardens

I guess we will have to learn to cultivate our own gardens 🌞🙌🦋💭

Complaining

After hearing about my near dear friend Bonnie’s story about her sun wife and grandkids in North Carolina… after the passing of my father… some things just seem to make all other things shrink.

To think of the things we have the luxury of complaining about sometimes seems insane.

Complaining was one of the things people in hospice said they wish they did not do so much of.

Perspective

Open heart open mind

At least once a day I remind myself that I know nothing

CLARITY

Nature trail walks. Alcohol free, getting good nights sleeps= PRICELESS

Cell Phones

One of the many things that Rob Miller taught me was that every time I pick up my cell phone I am taken out of the moment.

When with company and especially with my son I aim to not be on my cell phone.

I know as soon as I pull that thing out I am telling him that is more important than him… it also makes me listen less and pulls my attention away from him.

As an invitation when with others do your best to stay in the moment.

One love

Namaste

Cell Phones

One of the many things that Rob Miller taught me was that every time I pick up my cell phone I am taken out of the moment.

When with company and especially with my son I aim to not be on my cell phone.

I know as soon as I pull that thing out I am telling him that is more important than him… it also makes me listen less and pulls my attention away from him.

As an invitation when with others do your best to stay in the moment.

One love

Namaste

The passing of my father

Feeling my feelings.

I refused to escape into drugs or alcohol. I have not put a prescription drug into my body since 2007 ( I did not have a problem…) I just learned how serious the side effects could be after I ended up with a whole in my small intestine from the pill Mobic.

I thought to myself “ How can I heal naturally?”

Which dove my into my holistic health practices!!! I learned how much can be done through nutrition, exercise, and cutting out the garbage including the news. :) Therefore I have not watched the news, eaten any fast food, drank soda, or have had any pharmaceuticals since 2007.

Anyways back to the passing of my dad.

My aim is to feel my feelings, grieve with clarity. I have taken two weeks off of what I am unable to call work ( I absolutely love what I do .) I have drank zero alcohol and have taken zero drugs… like I said the main thing is I want to feel my feelings. When I was sad yesterday I called a dear friend. When I was angry today I exercised.

I feel as though now there is a whole or void in my life and I simply do not want to fill it. With the passing of my father I do not want to fill it with a person, material object, or substance.

The Japanese have a belief that where there is a whole, void, crack, anything like that… that is where the light enters.

So I feel by acknowledging this void… the light will enter through it.

I believe as Albert Einstein did that energy cannot be creating or destroyed. Therefore I personally believe my father will always be here. He said look for me as “ Cardinal Fred.”

I will do my best to honor him and keep my heart and mind open looking for his signs.

I feel a deep appreciation towards him and all of my ancestors always knowing my son would not be here without them and he is my favorite gift of all time.

Seems to be a whirl wind of emotions.

This next week I will be celebrating his life with family friends delicious food and wine.

Remember both good and bad will happen to us this lifetime and we need both to appreciate the other.

We would not be able to see the moon or the stars without the darkness.

Knee jerk reactions

Nowadays I choose to respond verse react. This usually takes mindfulness and both a deep physical and mental breath.

“ Rob Miller “ taught me the mental breath trick.

Practice the pause my friends

Ps Eckhardt Tolle is amazing

KINDNESS

Kind people are my kinda people

Blame

Blame is a weak persons game.

I have been listening to a lot of Dr. Wayne Dyer lately.

When he was a therapist he had a lot of people come in and blame their mom for their issues. His response would be “ Ok send your mom to me and we will treat her and you will get better?”

Life just does not work this way. Circle of control, that person in the mirror.

I feel as though we owe it to ourselves to become the very best version of ourselves this lifetime.

This means dropping all blame and realizing we are the captains of our own ships.

None of us make it out alive without making mistakes. Often this is how we learn our best lessons.

I want to tell every 16 year old you are the captain of your own ship and only you have the power to change your life!!! Never put your happiness in other people’s hands… we must create it!!!!!! Also at 16 one had no idea about life.

I would never allow a 16 year old to take hormone blockers or make life altering decisions. We must remember the brain is not fully developed until 25 and these kids are just barely learning to drive!!!!!!

Kids need to be kids

One love

Namaste

JCC

Seeing yourself as love

“Seeing yourself as love… and having only that to give away.”

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Resentment

Resentment is like drinking poison wanting to hurt the other person.

Forgiveness is a beautiful thing… do it for you.

One love

Namaste

JCC

COMPASSION

Have you ever wanted to give other’s a break? Have you ever wanted to give yourself a break?

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Remember rule #6

Never take yourself to damn serious :)